Prayer to Soften My Wife’s Heart

by John (USA)

Oh Lord I pray that You will give me what I need to change and be the kind of man my wife needs and deserves for a husband. I have wronged her terribly by hiding financial problems and stealing her hopes and dreams. I have not treated her right emotionally. I have been a poor husband and friend. I must thank her because of her asking for a seperation I have come back to You Lord. She has saved me, now I ask for the chance to save her. I need the gift of patience and to soften her heart which I hardened through my actions. I also ask that her coworkers stop influencing her to not give me a chance. If I am given a fair chance, with Your help I can restore our marriage. Thank you Lord. Amen

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  1. Anonymous says:
    Praying for you.

    My husband & I were in the same situation 9 years ago but with prayer & faith in GOD we are very happiely married now for almost 42 years….It took a long time for me to trust him again but with the help of my LORD & Savior our marriage is better then it ever was…..
    Praying that all works out for you & your wife in JESUS NAME…
    Be blessed!!!!

  2. Anonymous says:
    thank you for the prayer.

    Thanks for the writer of this prayer i am in rhe same place i uave hardened my wifes heart and need the lord to softer her her to give me another chance. I have no pride i am willing to do what it takes to make it work. Thank lord for been there for me to turn to in my time of turmoil and please here my prayer. Amen.

  3. Anonymous says:
    I'm in the same place you are

    Iam praying for you I am going thru the same thing you are. I hope you get your chance, I’m still waiting on mine.

  4. Anonymous says:
    I'm in the same spot did the same thing and lied

    I need prayer to for the same thing. we had money problems and i lied to here and daid i could take cate of it and couldn’t. broke my wifes trust. and we seperated. been working on it for six months and her and my family interferes with our marriage. I’m trying to build trust and they talk down on me. id never lie to her again it hurt me and her. please pray for us to Randall and Amber

  5. Anonymous says:
    My Friend

    I am on the same ship. My wife is leaving very soon for a separation. It wasn’t about finances but emotions. She is the love of my and I can’t imagine being without her. But my therapist said give her space and do not push. So I am listening and getting my life back that I should have never let go in the first place. One day she says she loves me, the next day her heart is cold again. So maybe right now it is for the best so she can get the help that she needs. Only time heals the soul and heart and I pray to the Lord everyday for the both of us to be united as husband and wife again to love and honor in sickness and in health til death due us part.
    Good luck and I am praying for you and all other couples going through this. It is like living in the twilight zone.

  6. Anonymous says:
    I also hardened my wife's heart.

    I have wronged my wife, but I have seen my faults. I am trying really hard to win her heart back, but getting little to no results.
    Please pray that my new found love for her will be appreciated, and she can open her beautiful heart to me once again. We used to tell each other “I love you” 2-3 times a day now she hasn’t said it to me in nearly 2-1/2 months. I miss that a lot. Also she won’t let me touch her, a hug is almost impossible. I have The Lord, and he is showing me love every day. She says “it’s nice, but…” I think she dwells on the negative things too much. I have Christian friends supporting me, and praying for me, but I am asking for more prayers for me and my wife. The Lord Jesus knows my heart and my prayers, now I hope he hears it from many more.

  7. Anonymous says:
    me too

    I am praying that prayer with all my heart. My wife is being controlled while in depression. I am asking the lord in to deliver her from the enemy and bring her into his loving arms. Please pray for us.

  8. Anonymous says:
    have faith

    This website is extremely helpful
    http://rejoiceministries.org/
    I am going through this too and you have to fix your eyes on Jesus and not the water you’re walking on. Strengthen your faith in Christ. It’s the only thing you can control. Have empathy and compassion for wife’s pain and fear. Check out ultimatehusband.com it is extremely helpful too. Pray for your wife and love her like Jesus. Have faith without doubt and you can say to the mountain you’re facing be thrown into the sea. Don’t be afraid. Fear and shame ate tools of Satan. Read about Adam and Eve. They his because they were afraid and ashamed. Whenever God or an angel of the Lord comes, they say “do not be afraid.” Trust Jesus. Listen for His direction. Realize you can’t fix this, but Jesus can. Have faith and rely on His power to be made perfect in your weakness. My wife isn’t back yet, but I believe God will bring her back. His timing is perfect. Wait for Him to work. It can take time. When women get hurt, it’s a big process to heal. Remember give this to the Lord. You can’t win, but Jesus can and he does things perfectly.

  9. Anonymous says:
    30 married years and now separated

    I’m going through the same thing. 3 years ago I fell into a very short lived affair. I repented and gave been in counseling for 3 years. 9 months ago she decided she didn’t love me and refused to discuss our relationship. She moved out 3 months ago. She now refuses to reply to texts. My adult children won’t help and I’m in the dark as to her life. She refuses to communicate. She says she’s happy. It’s like witchcraft! She is a Christian but refuses to attend church or talk to Christian friends. I pray that the Holy Spirit will soften her heart, give her a new heart and break down the walls of resentment, bitterness, & unforgiveness. That the influences of darkness communicated by her support group will not prosper in Jesus’ Name! Wait on the Lord, it’s His battle. God’s will is for your marriage to be restored and healed. God can mend hurting hearts and change bitter hearts that refuse to seek His face, but it takes time. In the meantime, continue to pray and work on yourself. Perhaps the Lord is waiting on your reaching a level of surrender to His will for things to really last as they work out. Have faith and fight for your marriage!

  10. Jay says:
    Same pain.

    My wife and I have been separated for over 2 months now. I miss her terribly. My actions has caused her heart to harden towards me. Having no where to turn, I went to praying for my marriage. My wife and I, have been together for 21yrs. Married for 15. We have 4 children. Two grown and two teens. I ask that someone pray for the restoration of my marriage please. She’s my best friend.

  11. Jay says:
    Same pain.

    My wife and I have been separated for over 2 months now. I miss her terribly. My actions has caused her heart to harden towards me. Having no where to turn, I went to praying for my marriage. My wife and I, have been together for 21yrs. Married for 15. We have 4 children. Two grown and two teens. I ask that someone pray for the restoration of my marriage please. She’s my best friend.

  12. Anonymous says:
    Prayers

    Finding this page gives me hope. I am going through the same thing as all of you. I made some dire mistakes. Ever cheated or physically abused her but I lied about drinking and broke her heart with careless words. We separated in June and I let an email from her mom send me over the edge. Attorneys coerced and pushed me with fear to file for divorce. I did and in less than 12 hours tried to retract – it was too late, as she has alredy countered. She came hard. I started begging her not to go down this path. She initially backed off but wanted to keep papers in place. We ended up in court and it was ugly.

    Finally last month she came around a little and very nice. That lasted about a week. Then the last month she has been extremely cold. She did agree to a 9 month cooling off. I was staying with a friend and she wants to see me live alone and be independent not codependent. She is extremely angry. Some say a get is good that means love. I’m not sure. We have a two year old and this is killing me. When women turn, they turn.

    I have read all the same things and prayed a lot. She says she needs time and distance. She says she is not dating and won’t and I believe her. I think she is angry at men period. I promised to love, cherish and protect her when we got married and failed miserably.

    I down on my knees praying that God will restore our marriage and soften my beautiful wife’s hear. She is so loved by me and my son to. I pray that she believes I can lead our family again. My family is everything to me. I pray that God gives me the strength to show I can take care of myself so that she can see I can care for our family. I am hurting (so is she) and fearful of the future.

    I have told my attorneys to nonsuit my side of the divorce. Meaning I am withdrawing my side of the petition. I am hopeful that will show I am serious about our family. I realize it is a huge risk. But it’s worth it to me. Thank you for the great prayer above and thank you all for listening.

  13. Anonymous says:
    Broken

    Hello All, I’m going through same thing as you husbands. The difference is my husband had an affair on me and I’m willing to stay with him. He has come up with meaningless things such as my hair, me having different choices of restaurant,me having bad attitude when things don’t go my way,and some other things.
    An has moved out, he doesn’t want to see what he has done besides the affair. Such as putting his mom first, and hanging out with friends, just to state a 2. I pray that he will allow the lord to soften his heart towards me and our marriage can be restored. We have been married 25 yrs n March. An I won’t give up on him or our marriage. Your wives are very blessed to have you all. We all make mistakes and need forgiveness. May God Bless each of your marriages and mine too.

  14. Anonymous says:
    Broken

    Hello All, I’m going through same thing as you husbands. The difference is my husband had an affair on me and I’m willing to stay with him. He has come up with meaningless things such as my hair, me having different choices of restaurant,me having bad attitude when things don’t go my way,and some other things.
    An has moved out, he doesn’t want to see what he has done besides the affair. Such as putting his mom first, and hanging out with friends, just to state a 2. I pray that he will allow the lord to soften his heart towards me and our marriage can be restored. We have been married 25 yrs n March. An I won’t give up on him or our marriage. Your wives are very blessed to have you all. We all make mistakes and need forgiveness. May God Bless each of your marriages and mine too.

  15. Anonymous says:
    hardened heart

    I see we have a lot in common on this site. I pray for each and everyone of you in your time of need. I was put on zoloft for PTSD and my wife knew about juit. I had a bad reaction to it and i harmed her mentally. I never touched her physically and i almost committed suicide from the side effects of the drug. we have a 1 yr old baby girl that i love dearly. since then she has filed a cdv charge and a protection order on me. we have never had any issues before except for communication and i feel sure that her heart is hardened and she has anger and negative influence in her life right now. I ask all of you to pray as hard as you can for me and my family and pray that God can reach in and soften her heart.

  16. Anonymous says:
    hardened heart

    I see we have a lot in common on this site. I pray for each and everyone of you in your time of need. I was put on zoloft for PTSD and my wife knew about juit. I had a bad reaction to it and i harmed her mentally. I never touched her physically and i almost committed suicide from the side effects of the drug. we have a 1 yr old baby girl that i love dearly. since then she has filed a cdv charge and a protection order on me. we have never had any issues before except for communication and i feel sure that her heart is hardened and she has anger and negative influence in her life right now. I ask all of you to pray as hard as you can for me and my family and pray that God can reach in and soften her heart.

  17. Anonymous says:
    I pray every day to have a chance to make Kate the happiest woman in the world

    If anyone out there is going through this same pain- I pray for you

  18. Anonymous says:
    heart

    pray for my wife’s harden heat

  19. Sam says:
    My wife is living else where and is separating from me after 28 years together and ssssshe don't want to talk about working to stay together.

    My wife and I have been together for 28 years and married for 25 years. She moved into her parents house to care for her father who passed not long ago. After he passed she moved into another house we owened. She said she wanted the house we were living in redone. So I worked to redo the house and she loved there but we talked daily and she would talk about us doing things or going on trips often. Then one day she calls me at work and says she is filing for seperation. When I try to ask why she says she dont lobe me anymore. She said I didn’t love her and she felt I didn’t care. I have tried to tell her I am sorry and I would love to show her how much I love her but she won’t hear it. I have prayed and prayed but so far nothing has changed. All I want is another chance but I think she is listening to co workers who say leave and do what makes you happy. I can’t eat or sleep, I can’t hardly enjoy anything anymore. I really need alot of prayers and for God to soften her heart and give me a chance. Please help me pray for my wife and my family. Our 3 sons are hurting to.

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