Hello everyone, my name is Jack and I am graciously asking for your prayers over my ex-girlfriend (Marlene) and I’s relationship as she recently broke up with me 7 days ago. I will provide a little summary of our situation below if you care to read the details but long story short, I still believe that she is the one God wants me to be with. My prayer intention is that if it is in God’s will for us to be together, that He please clearly communicate that to her during these next 30 days of No Contact and have her reach out to me so we can reconcile our relationship and grow together. If she is not the one for me, then I ask God to please heal my heart and guide me to my future wife. I have been praying to St. Dwynwen to aid in intercession for my prayer intention and I just thought that yours would help too. Thank you so much, and God bless you all.
We started our relationship in long distance for about 5 months (we were both in different states due to online school because of COVID) but have been able to date in person for the last 3 months since our school began in-person classes. However, she only gets to see me about once every week or so because her parents suggested that she stay online this school year and the drive to see me is about 45 min. It has been hard to rarely see her in person but we FaceTime/text all the time. The thought of breaking up never crossed my mind because we have communicated to each other many times throughout our relationship that we were the answer to each other’s prayers and God made us for each other, which is why this breakup came as a huge shock to me. I still do believe she is the one for me, however, I am open to another woman if that is God’s will for me of course. She broke up with me because she has a lot of stress with school and all of her new responsibilities in her household with her family (her mom is pregnant and now my ex has to take her siblings to practice, do grocery shopping, etc.). She told me that she feels that she can’t give me the proper attention and effort that I deserve with everything going on in her life and her stress. She said it is not the right time for her to be in a relationship with everything she is dealing with at home and her studies (she is a very good student and she is always crammed with homework/studying). She said our situation is “right person, wrong time” but I don’t believe in that because I feel that if it is the right person then it is always the right time no matter the circumstances because a strong couple is supposed to stick together during tough times. I told her that I still feel like she is the one for me and I am willing to give her however much space and time she needs to “work on herself” and that we should just take a break right now and not officially break up, but she insisted that we go our separate ways and if we “find each other down the road then it’s destiny”. Like I said, I don’t agree with this way of thinking because I feel that if we are meant to be, then we should be together now and grow together through the obstacles. Also, I forgot to mention that I have treated her like a queen since the day we met so I know this breakup has nothing to do with how I treated her. (she broke up with me 5 days ago so this is still pretty recent). Today is day 4 of No Contact between us and I have come up with a plan that I will not contact her for 30 days. During this 30 day period, I will be praying a 30-day prayer for love that I found and I will be asking God that if she is the one for me, to please communicate that to her and have her reach out to me within these 30 days and if not, I will accept that and will move on to the next relationship God wants for me. I understand that my ex’s situation will most likely be the same after this 30 day period, however, I am still praying for clarity so I can know I should move on, or if we can grow together. I have also been praying the St. Dwynwen novena with the same intention and today I am on day 5 of the novena. St. Dwynwen is the patron saint of lovers and aids those in heartbreak. Here is the novena prayer:
Oh Blessed Saint Dwynwen,
you who knew pain and peace,
division and reconciliation.
You have promised to aid lovers
and you watch over those whose hearts have been broken.
As you received three wishes from an Angel,
intercede for me to receive three blessings
to obtain my heart’s desire…
(Mention your need here…)
or if that’s not God’s will,
a speedy healing from my pain.
I ask for your guidance and assistance
that I may find love with the right person
at the right time and in the right way,
and an unshakable faith
in the boundless kindness and wisdom of God.
This I ask in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord.
Pray for us.
Pray for us.
Pray for us.
1 Our Father, 1 Hail Mary, 1 Glory Be