My son turns 17 this week. A few years back he got involved with a non Christian girl and she showed him terrible things and he changed while dating her. His grades dropped dramatically, his attitude changed and he became very disrespectful and went from being a good boy who was respectful and followed the rules and loved the Lord to the very opposite. He started dressing different and listening to inappropriate music. I could not stand by and allow him to continue on the path of destruction. So I took him away from her, pulled him out of the school.
He went through a withdrawl for a time, mad, blaming me telling me I ruined his life and he was going to be with her no matter what. I had put him in a Christian school at that time. A few months later he started coming around, thinking more clearly and even came to me and thanked me for doing that. That he could see what kind of a person she was and that she was a bad influence on his life and he was glad he was in the Christian school. He started reading his Bible more and asking more questions and wanting to have discussions about it. Wanting to grow. However, due to financial changes in our lives we could no longer afford the Christian school and so sent him to the local school.
He actually was doing very well until 2nd semester when the girl transfered to his school. Now the same situation has happended again. Only this time he is at a deeper darker dispare. He has alienated his friends, gotten his bad attitude back, getting in trouble at school, and planning on leaving when she graduates and being with her no matter what. He is in deneial about the whole situation. His friends at school are even telling him that this girl has low morals, a negative influence on him and he wont listen to them.
He is lying to us telling us he is going to the movies with his guy friends and he goes with her. He told me he was spending the night at his friends house and he went and had sex with her. It just keeps going worse and worse. He says we are too strict and wont let him do anything.
Well, when you break the rules and get grounded that means you dont get to do anything, right? So it’s from his choices. He wants to govern his own life and for us to get out of it. He says we try to talk to him too much, that everything is always a life lesson. The people I’ve talked to all say the same thing not knowing the others have said it. They are telling me to take him out of this school and put him back in the christian school, to get him away from her. She is like a drug to him and he is addicted to her and the addiction is taking over and consuming him.
He has pulled away from God and off the path of righteousness and is now on the path of destruction. He will be 18 in one year. Please pray that God will guide us, give us strength, and do what ever it takes to get our son’s attention and bring him back to the Lord. Thank you