My husband has been severely depressed most of our marriage. He is unhappy with his work and takes it out on myself and our children by being short and basically emotionally absent. When he is home he sleeps all the time. His job is not physical, just stressful. He won’t help with with the kids or the house. He accuses me of not working , when I’ve worked 1-2 jobs our whole marriage and still work but he doesn’t think my full time job is enough. He blames me for not earning a higher income because I took a lower stress job that paid less during the pandemic to virtual school our children (which he wanted the homeschooling). I know he feels trapped in the job and the marriage. I need guidance on how to help him and how to repair our marriage or how to encourage him to move on if he no longer is happy. As it is, I’m constantly on a knife’s edge, afraid to spend money, afraid to say anything to upset him, afraid to talk about my feelings because he always turns it against me.